Archive for August, 2009

32oz.ofWater = A baby foot and other adventures

August 31, 2009

baby foot2

Today I was scheduled for my second ultrasound. ๐Ÿ™‚ I was really excited to see baby and get some good pictures. But, that meant, I had to chug 32 oz. of water in one hour without peeing! Not my favorite.

My appointment was at 10:30, so the chugging began at 9:30. Surprisingly, I did fairly well drinking the water. I think I even had 20 minutes to spare. Moving from the car to the office, not so easy. It was then my body panicked and said, “find a bathroom, you’re gonna explode!” And then I had to argue with my body, and my mind said, “Nope, must see baby!”

Well, I get there and was seen at my scheduled time. This is it…the moment I have been waiting for in the past two months. Well, she goes on to look at stuff, the placenta, measuring the baby’s head, looking at the spine, the tail bone, the brain. All that good stuff. Baby has a lot of brain,ย  a strong spine, bones are set—baby has grown for sure!

By the way I couldn’t really see the screen, sort of but with my head all twisted.

I am dismissed to empty my bladder. Ah,ย  that felt so much better.

So, when I returned from the restroom we continued the ultrasound. I couldn’t wait to get some pictures. Well, the technician showed me more brain, more spine and at this point I just wanted to see the baby whole. I had no idea what I was looking at half of the time. Or it seemed like I was looking at the same thing over and over. Finally she showed me a hand (long fingers) and a foot. She did show me the baby’s face, but it was upside down so I couldn’t make it out. So, she says we’re done and I’m disappointed because she only took a picture of the baby’s foot and a face I can’t make out.ย  Bummer. I feel like I didn’t even really see the baby, just alot of body parts.ย  Granted, the baby is pretty active. The baby kept on moving to show his or her brain. The lady kept saying, “Okay we know you have alot of brain, now let me see face.” So, that was that.

Now, we’re heading to an appointment Kris has and I decide to wait in the car and sulk and mope because I didn’t get good pictures. As, I am looking through the two pictures, a man walks up to the car and asks me for change. I politely say, I do not have any, as I don’t carry cash with me (just plastic). The man tells me he is hungry and that he is looking for food. I offer him some almonds we had in the car. Man shows me that he has very few teeth. I spot a KFC across the street and offer to buy him a meal. As we cross the street and enter KFC, this man tells me he hasn’t eaten in 2 days! Wow, 2 days! I immediately want to offer this man the whole menu. I ask him what he wants and he is overwhelmed by how much food there is. He says he doesn’t know, so I get him the biggest meal deal- 4 sides, a biscuit, 4 pieces grilled chicken and a drink. As we waited, I find out his name is Jim. We shake hands, and he thanks me profoundly for the food. I tell him it is not a problem and ask if he wants anything else. Jim just wants to talk. So, Jim tells me of his situation, of his pain. I listen. Not sure what to say. Then the cashierย  presents Jim with a bag FILLED with food. I think she threw in a few extras in there. ๐Ÿ™‚ Jim’s eyes widen and he smiles.

We walk back across the street and I tell him, I want him to meet my husband Kris. So, we talk some more. I share with him God’s promises. 1 Peter 5: 10 and Ephesians 6:10. He is touched that I share these verses with him.

When Kris was done we pray with him and offer him a bag, with a blanket, a couple bananas,ย  a church card, and our contact info. He is tearing. Says thank you again.

I knew then, that this day was not about me and the pictures. God had something bigger planned. I thanked God for Jim’s life. And thanked God for today. Here I was sulking over not getting enough pictures, when Jim hadn’t eaten in two days.

As we pull away, I see Jim sitting under a tree, digging into his meal. Praise God, there is so much to rejoice in.


To love

August 20, 2009


David Slater, 24, beloved son, brother, father and friend.

Today was David’s funeral.

At the funeral they had video footage of the life of David. There in those few short minutes of seeing the interaction of baby David with his mom, I sawย  a glimpse of true love. Then on footage it showed you that at 7 months David had a major surgery due to an accident. He had stitches and bandages all over his little head. From this point on most would see him as different, but you saw again, the interaction between mother and child, and you saw that to his mother he was still the same sweet baby boy. This is to love. You see past people imperfections. You see their heart.

It dawned on me that all the people we see “differently” they are someones child. And more than likely, to that mother they are no different. So today I realized, I mean really realized the importance of loving people. What it means to love like Christ. Those moments in which you are tired and overwhelmed and want to throw in the towel on love, it is then we should love. When the dog is barking, dinner is burning, the telephones ringing and someone is calling your name, it is then we should love.

David knew how to love. When people ridiculed him and ignored him, he loved them anyway. In his 24 years of life, David showed true love more than some do in their 70s.

I’ve been praying to learn how to love better. Not from my own selfish love, seeking to be loved, but to just simply love. This is what I got from today, “To really love, love when it’s hard. Especially when its hard. This is the only way.”

What also captured me during this footage was that from baby-baby, David smiled, during difficult surgery recoveryย  he smiled, as he learned to walk and use his hands he smiled. ๐Ÿ™‚ When it seemed that David should be angry at circumstances, he smiled. And remembering the encounters we had, yes, David always smiled.

I thank God for David, and the way he used David’s life to teach us more about Him.

I ask you to pray with me for David’s family, especially his 5 year old daughter, Bethany. I pray that God may send people to Bethany that can uplift her in His love. That through her father’s example she may know what it is to love and be loved. David loved not expecting love, but because he loved so, he was very loved.

Baby Waves.

August 13, 2009

Dear Baby,

I think you’re rather swell. Lately I can feel you move inside. You are like a little wave in my tummy. I think you like it when I laugh since you move then too. ๐Ÿ™‚

You are for sure growing, as my belly is getting bigger. Sometimes I can actually feel it stretch.ย  Well, I’m glad you’re doing good in there. baby handStaying nice and cozy.

Lately, you and I have been able to tolerate more foods. We like blueberry yogurt and salads, amongst someย  other goods. And Noodles & Company, we really like that. ๐Ÿ™‚

Well, sweet baby, keep moving and growing.

Much Love,

Family Ties

August 5, 2009

First off, I want to send a shout out to my mom. Happy birthday mom! I am really glad you were born and later on became my mom. ๐Ÿ™‚ I have learned alot about true giving from you. Thanks ma! Best wishes for you always. Mwahhha!

This past couple of months have def.ย  been family oriented. My brother Belarmino D. (Dave, David) , 17 stayed with us for 1 1/2 month and my mom visited for 12 days. At first it seemed a little overwhelming…probably because I was still very tired when Dave first got here. Now that they’re back in Virginia, I must say, I miss them. Family is good. And important. And I didn’t realize until now, how much I missed that unity. I don’t get to see my family that often. I hadn’t seen my mom in a year! It dawned on me when they were here that I haven’t seen my dad in over a year, and unless he visits in January, it will be two years before I see him! Craziness. I think often times people take for granted having their family close by. Well, I know I sure appreciate mine more now.

Family Fun

Speaking of families, Kris and I have started talking baby stuff, which makes me really excited. ๐Ÿ™‚ We started a baby registry at Target yesterday. It was sooo fun to get that scanner and scan stuff. ๐Ÿ™‚ I realized yesterday how responsible parents we’ll be. Because the items we were looking at and scanning are safety locks, and bottles, sanitizers, organizers. Nothing cutesy, except, this rear view mirror thing for the car, with a teddy bear on it. ๐Ÿ™‚ We’ll go back and scan some more.

We have been talking about painting and decorating the baby area (this little nook upstairs near our bedroom). ๐Ÿ™‚ I am really excited and getting my creativity flowing. ๐Ÿ™‚ Good stuff.

My energy has also been rising. ๐Ÿ™‚ Today hubby and I did some house cleaning and organizing. I love cleaning together! I haven’t been needing the naps as much and my taste buds are getting there. Lots of good stuff is happening. Praise God for His awesomeness!